“The truth has been taken out of my hands and used as entertainment”

The family of Caroline Flack has released an unpublished Instagram post by the late Love Island UK host, which was written days before she took her own life.

The release of the post came as an inquest into her death opened on Wednesday, with tributes pouring in for the presenter, and the Crown Prosecution Service facing criticism for its decision to charge her.

In the message, which is released after the star’s advisers warned her against posting it, Flack said she “took responsibility for what happened” following her arrest in December, but insisted she “was NOT a domestic abuser”.

This is the full message Caroline Flack wrote and was advised not to post on social media. Her family wanted to share it through the Eastern Daily Press (UK):

“For a lot of people, being arrested for common assault is an extreme way to have some sort of spiritual awakening but for me it’s become the normal.

I’ve been pressing the snooze button on many stresses in my life – for my whole life. I’ve accepted shame and toxic opinions on my life for over 10 years and yet told myself it’s all part of my job. No complaining.

The problem with brushing things under the carpet is …. they are still there and one day someone is going to lift that carpet up and all you are going to feel is shame and embarrassment.

On December the 12th 2019 I was arrested for common assault on my boyfriend …Within 24 hours my whole world and future was swept from under my feet and all the walls that I had taken so long to build around me, collapsed. I am suddenly on a different kind of stage and everyone is watching it happen.

I have always taken responsibility for what happened that night. Even on the night. But the truth is …. It was an accident.

I’ve been having some sort of emotional breakdown for a very long time.

But I am NOT a domestic abuser. We had an argument and an accident happened. An accident. The blood that someone SOLD to a newspaper was MY blood and that was something very sad and very personal.

The reason I am talking today is because my family can’t take anymore. I’ve lost my job. My home. My ability to speak. And the truth has been taken out of my hands and used as entertainment.

I can’t spend every day hidden away being told not to say or speak to anyone.

I’m so sorry to my family for what I have brought upon them and for what my friends have had to go through.

I’m not thinking about ‘how I’m going to get my career back.’ I’m thinking about how I’m going to get mine and my family’s life back.

I can’t say anymore than that.”

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Source: The Guardian


  1. jezza the first original one

    The second worst aspect of this is the way the press behaved, simply to boost their revenue. Australian media should take note, I’m thinking Michelle Bridges here, she did a crime, paid the price so back off. With regards to domestic abuse, the CPS followed their guidelines regardless of gender. The worst aspect of course is the loss of life and impact on friends and family…

  2. That is absolutely heartbreaking. I can’t imagine the devastation that her family and friends are going through.
    I hope that maybe everybody remembers to Think before they post or reply on social media –
    T – Is it true?
    H – Is it helpful?
    I – Is it inspiring?
    N – Is it necessary?
    K – Is it kind?
    To me, the K is the most important one – please people, remember to be kind.

    • Thank you Elle, for stating this. I think the media have a huge responsibility and so do Social media users. I often thunk what are the other aspects not being reported. While I didn’t know of her work in life, I am truly saddened by her tragic death.

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